I usually only post about Bug or our adventures with Bug. Today, it's about me. (though Bug has learned an incredible lesson from this)
18 years ago I was working in a video store. It was a weeknight (Tuesday, I think) about a week after Valentine's Day, and about 45 minutes before closing time. I was at the counter reading a book. I looked up and couldn't quite comprehend what I was seeing. It was a guy with a hood and a big gun telling me to put all the money in a bag NOW. I headed to the cash register and did just that. It's incredibly hard to open a plastic bag under pressure like that.
Once he had the money, he told me to get down on the floor. In that moment, I recalled writing a list of things that I loved about my boyfriend and putting it in his Valentine's card. (he's now my husband and Bug's dad) My thought was "I'm so glad that he'll have that." I was sure that it was over. Thankfully, I was wrong. After several minutes, I got up and called 911. The police were there very quickly, as the station was only a couple of blocks away. I also called my manager and boyfriend. It was a long night.
After talking with the police and watching the surveillance video, they came up with 2 names. (life in a small town) The following day, they arrested one of them. He ended up going to prison for about 5 years.
Recently, I became aware that we had one mutual facebook friend. About 7 weeks ago, I left a comment on a post that she made. I then saw that HE had posted, too. I sent our mutual friend (J) a message, asking her how well she knew him (M). She said that she used to hang out with him but hadn't seen him in years. I told her why I was asking. I then said that if she ended up contacting him that she should let him know that I was open to an apology if he wanted to send me a message through facebook. She said that she would keep an eye on his page and that if it seemed that he was in a good place, she would contact him.
J & I chatted for a while, talking about our hometown. Suddenly she said that she had to share something that M had posted. It mentioned doing bad things and now living in a house of love. I told J that it was time! She sent him a message. He said that he couldn't talk because he was on a field trip. An hour or so later, J & M were talking on the phone and J was messaging me through facebook. She told M what was going on. When she mentioned him sending me an apology through facebook, he said that he didn't want to do that. He wanted to meet in person. I was surprised, but excited! I truly had no anger towards him at this point. Just lots of questions.
We were going to be in my hometown on Father's Day weekend, so we made plans to meet that Saturday. It was a long 6 weeks.....
We had planned to meet at a park so that the kids could run around, but the weather didn't cooperate. I managed to grab a room at a coffee shop so that we'd have some privacy. Bug's dad was sneaky and took these photos. It was such an easy, comfortable conversation. I still can't quite believe it.
I greeted him with "We meet again." I stood up and as we shook hands he said that he didn't know if it should be a handshake or a hug. I said "Hugs are good." and we had the first of many hugs.
Yes, we were LAUGHING. :)
I surprised him a bit when I told him that I had a copy of the surveillance video. I told him that it was his choice as to whether or not he wanted to see it. At first, he said he didn't want to, then decided that maybe it would be a good idea to watch it together. I set it on the end of the table so that we could both see it, but he decided to move over to my side. I can't even find the words to describe this moment.
Taking a selfie to send to J who was "patiently" waiting for news.
Bug and some of M's kids. They were hilarious. They're all holding tiny cats that I knit for them.
Here we are. Surreal. He's now a stay-at-home dad and has adorable, funny kids. :)